Posted On: 2023-11-24 15:53:36
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
- Dale Carnegie
How to Win Friends and Influence People is a self-help book published in October 1936 by Dale Carnegie. The book is one of the best-selling books of all time, selling over 15 million copies and has found itself in Time Magazine's “100 Most Influential Books” of all time.
The book talks in-depth about the human psyche and explains to the reader how to connect with other people. The book inculcates the reader with basic skills through which one can garner attention and encapsulate the goodwill of others.
With the World Health Organization (WHO) announcing loneliness as a health concern, How to Win Friends and Influence People is even more relevant 87 years after its publication. In honour of Dale Carnegie’s birth anniversary (i.e. November 24), we would like to explain some ideas on how you can win friends as explained by Dale Carnegie himself.
“While dealing with people, remember that you are dealing not with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion, who are motivated by pride and ego.” - Dale Carnegie
People don’t like to be attacked or criticized. If you constantly try to find faults in people, you will find people avoiding you. This doesn’t mean that you can’t criticize people for doing something in a wrong way, but you need to do it in a way that shows genuineness. For example, instead of saying ‘This drawing is completely rubbish’, say something like ‘I like the imagination, but the drawing lacks colour.’ By inculcating this method, you will not only form genuine human connections but also cause others to improve.
“You can make more friends in two months by being interested in them than in two years by making them interested in you.”
-Dale Carnegie
We always look for like-minded people to form connections with. So if you belittle people for their lifestyle, hobbies or anything else, it is bound to cause hindrances in relationships. Instead of dismissing people, show genuine interest in their area of interest, work or hobbies. You can even try out their hobbies and work, which can help boost your relationship with others.
“The average person is more interested in their name than in all the other names on earth put together.”
Our name is our identity. So it is important that you remember a person’s name. Remember a person’s name would bolster a feeling that you are genuinely interested in the other person. It makes them feel noticed. So, make an effort to remember their names.
“The easiest way to become a good conversationalist is to become a good listener.”
As speaking is important, so is listening. When you listen with full attention to your friends, it will make them feel important and cherished. If you really understand their needs and concerns, it will cause them to be closer to you.
“The royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most.”
Don’t go to Video Game Fandom and talk about how big of a loser they are for being interested in childish things. That way you will only cause people to dislike you. Talk about what the other person likes or try to understand why other people like it.
Filaantro is committed to helping people with loneliness and mental health issues. Filaantro has conducted numerous mental health sessions to help people deal with mental health issues.
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AUTHOR: Adil Sayyad
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